Personal Excellence

What can I do everyday so that I build a habit of giving my opinion more importance than the opinion of others? This question is a reflection of the fact that, you might be always going into comparison between what you say and what others say about any topic. Comparison is not a good thing, it either results in jealousy or it invokes your ego. Be careful and stay away from comparison. We need to state our opinion, whatever it might be and at the same time have respect for others opinion. The above explanation is nothing but the attitude each of us need to develop within ourselves.

Why is being an introvert considered to hinder personality development? Aren't introverts successful too? What you are talking is a general perception about Introverts in this world. Its a perception and not a fact. In fact there are many introverts who are still successful in their occupation. Right from Albert Einstein to Bill Gates to Warren Buffet or J K Rowling, all of them are Introverts, yet successful. I need you to not believe in the generalized statements made somewhere and therefore it becomes a cause for your worry. Being Introvert or Extrovert has not everything to do with your personality development. By the way it is not a fact that people who are too talkative have good personality.

What are the best ways to improve oneself? To being with focus on being Assertive. What does that mean. Follow the bullet points. Stop judging people on the basis of how they look. Do not consider others as superior than you nor inferior than you. Whenever you get upset or angry, ask a question to yourself. Is the event making me angry or the way i interpret the event is making me angry. If the second choice is true then try changing your outlook towards events that disturb you.

How do you build confidence in fearful times and take control of your future? Confidence is not something that we need only in times of distress or fear. It is something that needs to be there irrespective of the surrounding environment. Yes, it helps when its utmost needed. The first step towards building confidence is to build up a helpful attitude where we see ourselves as well as others as equals, failure as learning or lessons learnt, success as just another event and look for silver lining in every distress situation. I mean we need to be careful upon what we talk to ourselves as well as what we think about the overall situation at all times. What we believe ultimately starts becoming our reality and it decides our actions or behavior. Also one important suggestion i would like to state is do not get caught into comparison for anything and everything. You are YOU and others as OTHERS.

How can I overcome my fear of public speaking? Confidence building starts with what one thinks about himself/herself. Self Criticism or self deprecation or thinking low about oneself is the most dangerous thing and one should refrain from it. When you are addressing a group of people, we tend to get too conscious about what each of them will think, Secondly there is an unwritten expectation of you from yourself that, you must do good and people should clap. This expectation builds further tension. You can choose to focus on certain people in the public if you are familiar to them or choose to look straight at the end of the hall to avoid public gaze at you. Assure yourself that you are here to share something with people and you want them to know.This perspective helps in easing out the tension you have in mind. The most important thing while you are talking to anyone is that you both are humans, so irrespective of someone who might be of a different race, religion, inc...

How do I improve self-decision-making skills in just 30 days? The reason why many shy away from making decision is the fear of failure or not having enough confidence to own the result of the decision made. Skill is something which you can develop over a period of time. Decision making skill is not an objective subject which can be over in a stipulated time, because there is no benchmark as to when you can say that you are now good at a particular skill. So do not put a timeline. You will consider yourself good at a particular skill till the time things are happening your way. Any deviation might make you to question your own skill. This happens probably due to low self confidence. One needs to make decisions and be ready to own the outcome. We all try to do our best while making decisions. Sometime we are right and sometime we may go wrong. But remember, that things might go wrong due to number of factors and you are one of them. So do not criticize yourself too much i...

Do self-development books help? If you are thinking about self development, help can come from various sources, either through attending self development programs or by reading self development books. The most important question is how much we as individual are committed to self development. Book might just give some pointers. If i am serious about development and if there is something written in book that i can implement, its our decision to go ahead and practice it. Many a times, i have seen people also talk similar things about face to face training's. They say, its nice to listen but difficult to implement. I see these people as classic case of those looking for a golden pill which if taken, expect immediate changes. Any behavioral changes that leads to self development will take time and its a lengthy process. So whether its books or in person training's, its up to us how much are we willing to change. There is no point in blaming anything external for...